You’re Not the Only One Who Is Tired.

I have heard from many of you lately that you are feeling overwhelmed and paralyzed when it comes to making choices about how to engage in activism and social justice work. The sense that there is so much to be done and so many different issues and groups and initiatives vying for our attention. I have also heard that some folks are simply stepping back from their activism altogether because it just feels like too much. I understand this impulse. The sheer number of requests for space, speakers, petitions, and programs has skyrocketed.


It’s overwhelming. Truly.

And yet, we know that our faith calls us to respond to the world around us, to continue to work for justice and equity in our community.

When we feel overwhelmed by the state of the world or the state of our everyday life, and then layer on top of that the continuous requests from organizations, it’s easy to say, “Forget this, I can’t possibly help enough to make a difference, I can’t possibly decide which one is most important, and furthermore, I don’t have time to add yet another event.” I’d be lying if I told you I’d never thought these things. You’re not the only one who is tired!

Here’s the thing: You don’t have to solve it all. You are only one person. You don’t have to go to every forum or march or meeting. You just have to decide what is most important to you and focus on that. I have a colleague whose practice it is to choose three issues, and three issues only. She decides where to put her energy, and keeps strong boundaries around her time and energy. I’ve not been very good at emulating this practice personally, but I commend it to you anyway. Think about it! If we all committed to one issue, or two issues, or three issues, there would be a whole congregation of people working to make the world a better place, and fewer people experiencing burnout.

Social justice in congregational life is different from our personal work. It is our work (the Earth  & Social Justice Ministry) to make opportunities for engagement available to the whole congregation. That’s why we don’t pick just one issue. We work on many issues together. But we don’t expect everyone to work on everything! Just Change (the Open Space event we held in September) was a process that allowed us to decide as a group what the primary interests of the congregation are for now. Action Wednesday (ESJM’s evening program on the third Wednesday of the month) was created to help more people engage in social justice activities by concentrating meetings and programs at the same time.

And so I invite you, rather than letting the wide range of challenges overwhelm you, get you down and paralyze you, choose your 2 or 3 issues, and give them your all. We can make a difference together.

What Does It Mean to Be a Sanctuary?

Lately, I have gotten many requests from members of our community regarding whether UUCA is a Sanctuary church, or has any plans to declare itself as such. We currently have made no such declaration, but we do have a history of supporting undocumented and other immigrants through our social justice programs. I have seen a number of you at the community conversations on Sanctuary in Asheville over the past two months. Unitarian Universalists also have a history of support and engagement with immigrant communities. UUA President Peter Morales calls UUs to action in this video:

As you know, the raids and targeting of immigrants and other marginalized groups have escalated since that statement was made, even in the past week or two. So, what does that mean for UUCA? I am working on getting as much information as possible about our options for response so that I can pass it along to you. I also need to know who among you are interested in this work. If we were to declare this community a Sanctuary (or a Congregation Supporting Sanctuary) we would need to have broad buy in and support from the whole congregation. It would be a choice we would make together. And so, as we continue our information gathering, please let me know if you are interested in being part of the conversation. And stay tuned for upcoming opportunities for information and dialogue.

There are many resources out there if you are interested in learning more, or you can join the work ongoing here in Asheville. The UUA has a toolkit for congregations. Standing on the Side of Love has created a google doc with lots of useful information.  and the UU College of Social Justice has tools and resources as well.

We are in a time of rapid change and challenge. Immigrants are not the only marginalized group that will need our help and support. Transgender and gender nonconforming people, the disabled, women, people of color, and so many more. Of course, a sanctuary is defined as a place of refuge or safety – and also a sacred or holy place.  My hope is that whether or not we make the decision to formally become a Sanctuary Congregation, this community will always be a sanctuary for all who seek refuge among us, or who seek a sacred place, or who need help and safety in these difficult times. Who are we called to be together? How will we help our neighbors?

Caring Ministry


A few weeks ago, I preached about how we are called to community. If you missed the service (there was snow and ice that weekend!) you can read or listen here.  Afterwards, many of you asked how you might get involved in our Caring Ministry. Here is an excerpt from the sermon, and at the end of this blog, you can read more about how to engage in this ministry.

For many years, we have had a special list called the Caring Response Network that allows us to provide rides, food, and other assistance to folks who are in the midst of a medical or other crisis. Despite many attempts over the past few years to add people to this list, we find ourselves unable to meet all the needs that we have – requests to the Caring Response Network go unanswered. I am grateful to those of you, especially the pastoral visitors, who have helped me pick up the slack when this happens.

We are working on finding other ways to meet the need. But the question remains, is it our work to care for one another? In other cases, when a program struggles like this one has, I would let it fall by the wayside. I would say, “this appears to be something that is not important to the congregation, since nobody is stepping forward to meet the need.” And I would let it go. But with this situation, I can’t do that. It is not acceptable to me to say to our elders and others in crisis, “I’m sorry, we can’t help you.” And my hope is that it isn’t acceptable to you, either.

It is all of our work to care for one another. How will you respond when the call comes to help a friend? That one’s easy. When a friend calls, we answer. But what if it is someone we don’t know so well? Our presence in this community calls us to reach out, and it calls us to answer when others reach out, even when we aren’t already friends.

It has been said that in a religious community, we don’t have to like each other, but we do have to love each other – we are, in a way, each other’s anam cara. As a community of faith, as a congregation that chooses association based on relationship rather than creed, we choose to be spiritual friends. We choose this place because it calls us to reach toward our highest aspirations, to create a network of connections that will support us, and that will allow us to support others.

In order to facilitate this essential ministry of the congregation, next week we will launch an email blast called This Loving Community (TLC) coming out at the beginning of the week. TLC has been included in the enews, but will now come in a separate message. In it you will find personal milestones, births, deaths, etc. You will also find requests for meals, rides, cards, etc., which previously were only sent to the 55 people who opted into the Caring Response Network. The weekly On Call Pastoral Visitor will be noted in the message as well.

If you would like to submit information to be shared in the TLC email, you can send it to me, share it with a pastoral visitor, or use this convenient online form. If you are sharing information on behalf of another person, please do make sure you get permission from them first.

This change will, I hope, make it easier for you to keep track of what is happening in our community, and will empower the whole congregation to be involved in the work of caring for one another.

Supporting the Resistance



After hearing Sunday’s sermon about banding together to fight and join the Resistance, I received a note from one of you asking how to get involved if you’re not a person who is comfortable or able to participate in direct action, rallies, and other such “headline” events. You might be an elder who doesn’t drive at night. You might be a person who is uncomfortable at or otherwise unable to attend rallies and actions due to social anxiety, physical, financial, transportation or other limitations. You might be a person limited in your time due to family and work obligations. You might be a person who is interested in learning more about direct action, but wants to dip your toe in the water first. Whatever your situation, there are many ways to support the Resistance.

First and foremost, know that showing up at church every week, singing loudly and clapping along, energetically supporting the activist forces in the congregation, and building up the energy of the congregation for resistance is more important than you think. As always, we are called to community, and therefore called to support one another in many different ways.

Here is a list of actions to consider:

Information Gathering & Communications

  • Attend organizing meetings as a “reporter” and compile notes & resources for distribution to other congregants/community members who could not attend. If you are interested in this role, please contact Rev. Lisa Bovee-Kemper or any member of the Earth & Social Justice Ministry, we need you now!
  • Make phone calls or send emails to whoever we’re supposed to call that day (Congress, the Justice Department, etc.), plus phone calls or emails to other church members telling them who to call that day.
  • Write letters to the editor about how wonderful you thought the protest was, or about compassionate, UU values-based positions on current issues.

Direct Support to Demonstrators/Arrestees

  • Make yourself available to talk with/listen to people who are or have been on the front lines, have been arrested, or have participated in direct action. They may need general support or critical incident debrief.
  • Bake pretty and delicious cookies and have a friend take them to the front lines and hand them out.
  • Let people use your land line as the jail support line.
  • Go to the jail the day after a protest where people were arrested with a (vegetarian) casserole or a fancy fruit salad and some paper plates and plastic silverware. Make a fuss over the awesome arrestees and offer them food and rides.

Financial Support

  • Donate to a fund to help people who get arrested, or network with others to raise the funds.
  • Give direct support to activists in your community. The financial gifts that often feel most meaningful are ones that happen in relationship, so rather than just giving money to Greenpeace, give a specific activist a gift of money or shop for needed items and deliver them in person.
  • Consider sponsoring a person who wants to attend an out-of-town action but doesn’t have the resources.
  • Provide room and board to an organizer, freeing them up to work full-time on the Resistance.

This list exists in a public google document that will be added to in the future.

What’s Next?


As I walk through my daily routine these days, the shifting haze of smoke obscures the landscape and clogs my nostrils. It feels in some way appropriate, as we continue to learn more about what the landscape of our country looks like, how it will change and how it will stay the same in the years to come.

Of course, what is most prominent in my mind and on my heart these days is what the post-election political and social landscape looks like, and the dramatic changes that we will likely see, changes that will make the most vulnerable among us more vulnerable. We are already seeing these changes in spikes of racist and bigoted harassment and bullying. We are already seeing the terror experienced by already marginalized groups. Many of us experience grief and fear at changes we did not believe were possible. And this community is here for you if you need support or want to engage in conversation about what’s next.

This is not about a partisan agenda or a particular candidate. There is a moral imperative at stake here, and as a people of faith, we are called to stand up and fight for our values. Unitarian Universalists have long stood for the rights of the marginalized, for the health of the environment, and for a more inclusive society. We have also always stood for community, for making connections, and for honoring the dignity and worth of all beings. These values have not changed, and our response to the world around us continues to be led by our commitment to who we are as a religious people.  There is now an open assault on all these things that we hold so dear, and we must fight for ourselves and for the world around us.

So, how will we do this?

First and foremost, we will continue to do what we have been doing. We will build relationships in the community. We will engage in anti-racism/anti-oppression work and support efforts for racial justice. We will feed people at Room in the Inn and MANNA. We will continue to claim our identity as a congregation and as individuals who choose to work toward a better world. If you haven’t engaged with our Earth & Social Justice Ministry, now’s a great time to seek out a new volunteer opportunity. This will be a marathon, not a sprint, and so we will need all hands on deck.

And at the same time, we are looking to the long game. What tools do we need to provide for our people and our community at large so that we can survive what is coming? In December, I’m working on offering de-escalation and anti-bullying training. It has become clear to me that the most important thing we can do is be prepared to interrupt harassment and bullying when we see it in our community. This is not something we can expect to do without training and intentionality – it could put us in danger. But mitigating the “bystander effect” is essential. We must not stand by and allow harassment to occur. So, look for that coming up in your Weekly eNews.

I am also looking at the word “sanctuary” and what it means, both in a concrete sense and in an abstract sense. How is this community a sanctuary for ourselves, and for others? Are there concrete things we can do to provide sanctuary when it is needed? Please let me know if you want to be a part of this conversation.

There’s more. There is no way to know for certain what this new administration will actually do, and how it will impact us, until it happens, but we can be honest and clear-eyed about what we see is possible. Now is the time, more than ever, to be grounded in our UU values and work hard to create the world we dream. Someone told me today that they think I’m more optimistic about all this than I should be. I replied that pessimism is not a luxury we can afford. There is too much work to be done.

Join me.

Written by Associate Minister Rev. Lisa Bovee-Kemper.

Call the Minister(s) When…


As a follow up to my recent sermon on grief, I wanted to give a reminder that major crisis or loss is not the only time you can seek pastoral care from the congregation. We are here to care for one another. The Pastoral Visitors and the ministers are available to you when you need us. Check your enews or order of service to find the On Call Pastoral Visitor for the week, or contact one of the ministers directly. You may wonder what is “worthy” of such a call. And so I share this list, written many years ago by UU minister Peter Lee Scott. It is called “When to Call the Minister,” and has been adapted, edited, and added to by others. Here’s a version:


When you don’t know me, but would like to.

When you have problems you would like to discuss with your job, children, marriage, or anything else where a sympathetic ear might help.

When you are going to the hospital or know of someone else in the congregation who is.

When someone close to you has died or is critically ill or you’re dealing with a significant loss of some kind.

When you are planning to be married or divorced.

When you would like your child dedicated.

When you are pregnant and glad you are or wish you weren’t, also if you want to be pregnant but aren’t.

When you feel ready to join the congregation.

When you have concerns or suggestions.

When you have religious or spiritual questions.

When you are seeking to deepen your spiritual life.

When you are upset with me or would like to express appreciation.

When you have won the lottery and want to make a large donation to the church.

To add a little humor, Rev. Marilyn Sewell (retired minister who was with the First Unitarian Church in Portland, Oregon) added several reasons NOT to call the minister:

Don’t call the minister when:

You want to give her “the real scoop” on another member.

You want to explain that you’ll have to cut your pledge in half because you are spending the summer in the south of France.

You want to tell her you didn’t like what she wore in the pulpit last Sunday.

You want to tell her that one of the reasons you are a UU is that you have always distrusted organized religion. (Our church is, after all, a part of organized religion).

The UU Congregation of Asheville is a community that cares for one another. Your ministers and pastoral care team are here for you. And you are hear for each other, too.